We had a friend visit us yesterday evening and I felt that I couldn’t just feed him soup (which was what was on the menu) but I needed to provide a pudding of some description. I had rhubarb waiting to be used up so a rhubarb Herman cake it was!
To be honest the cake wasn’t that good, yes it was cakey but it barely tasted of rhubarb so at this point I hope you don’t mind but I will work on the recipe and save it for another day. What I really want to talk about is what a really lovely evening we had. It was a quiet evening in but we spent the whole time sat round the dining table chatting. This is something that we haven’t done for ages! After putting the kids to bed, often with a few stalls of more water, another book, another song or even just a quick hug they are usually settled around 8pm. My husband and I do a bit of tidying then generally go our separate ways; me to my laptop, crafting or occasionally telly and him to his XBox, computer or Star Wars card game (yawn)! It is a very rare occasion that we sit to watch something on telly together and never sit and talk!
For my 30 by 30 challenge number 17 is to spend more time with my husband. This is one of the more vague challenges and I think that it really needs to be defined somewhat. We are both very different and since we have had the kids get little time to go out together and the couple of hours we have in the evening after they are in bed we like to do our own thing as we have both had long busy days. This leaves no time to do things together and I can imagine that if this continues, somewhere down the line we may end up going our separate ways. Everyone says that relationships need work and I think this one could do with some effort being put it!
I would love to decide on one day a week to just sit at the table to chat, no media distracting us, maybe with a couple of drinks or even just a cup of tea or coffee. We could make it our own pub night – oh, I just thought of that and really like the idea! We don’t get the chance to go out to the pub so we could bring the pub to our dining room!
I have said it before and I know I will say it again, it is hard being a parent, you get very little time to yourself and if your co-parent is still in the picture, very little time with them. I know I keep setting myself targets and will do always but I think it is time to slow down a bit, I know my Herman book will never be finished by the summer holidays and really I am not creating it to make money but more for myself to get a book published and hopefully encourage others to bake at home.
So, re-assesing the bigger picture and looking at all of my challenges that I’d like to do before I’m 30 I think I need to do little bits of more of them, have a more balanced life.
What do you think? Do you have a balanced life? Do you think having a pub night at home is a good idea?