My journey to confidence
I can now tick off another of my 30 by 30 challenges:
- 26. Drive on the motorway again.
The first time I drove on the motorway on my own was when Isabella was 2 and William 6 months. A simple enough journey on the M40 for an hour then I would reach my destination; to visit my best friend. The journey there went very well and we spent a wonderful day together. It then came to going home time, I thought I’d leave at 3:00 to be back by 4:00 so I could cook tea and keep to our routine. The first 30 minutes of the journey passed with no event and then we came to a complete stop! I didn’t get home until after 8:00, needless to say I was in slight shock. Thankfully we had managed to stop to get a bite to eat but not before the kids had got hysterical and I had nearly had a panic attack.
I had not driven on the motorway since then; until yesterday that is, and I can thankfully say that my experience was much better.
My journey was to Bricks and Bread to visit Trudy and to meet Claire for the first time. These are two very inspiring ladies who I was so desperate to meet with that I had to believe in myself and have confidence in my abilities to make the journey there and back. I was reminding myself about how much driving I had been doing recently and that this was just the next step.
Usually I will spend the week before any major event worrying about all the possibilities but this time I was determined to keep positive and not to think about what could go wrong. I was reminding myself of all the good things about our get-together to look forward to.
From chatting with Claire and Trudy yesterday I have realise that my driving on the motorway is a part of many pieces of my life that I need to fit together to build my confidence. The confidence to hopefully start up a business of my own. By writing my list of 30 things to do before I am 30 I have set small achievable goals that hopefully help in bringing more contentment in my life and so help me define what it is I’d like to do in terms of work. At the moment I am not really in a position to commit to set working hours as I am at home with the kids all day but all of my blogging, interaction on social media and ideas are adding up to make me more confident and to develop my skills-set that I could quite easily have lost by not working.
Becoming a mum is probably the hardest thing I have done or will ever do, my confidence was completely knocked when I had Isabella and I have spent many years regaining my sense of self and defining what I would like to do. Through reading many blogs, websites, business startup guides and self-help books I have come up with my list to help me move forward and get the confidence I need to grow myself and hopefully grow a business when the time comes:
- Believe in yourself – this is the hardest for me.
- Set goals – I am a master of writing to-do-lists.
- Take small steps - over this last year I have driven further and further now I’ve driven on the motorway, yippee!
- Think positively – I am finally realising worrying is a waste of my time(it’s only taken 28 years).
- Find a support network – I have all sorts of different networks of friends; friends are essential!
Do you have a list of tips that you try to live your life by? Do you have any defining moments on your journey to confidence? If you have set up your own business how did you define your idea?